Islam Question and Answer - He divorced her three times when he was away from her and the news reached her when she was menstruating

He divorced her three times when he was away from her and the news reached her when she was menstruating

I write to you today asking for your opininion in regards to my divorce.My husband and I seperated and after two month of seperation he said talaaq: I am giving you divorce as God is my witnes. I had been mensturating,so I told him it doesnt count so he said God saved you this time but be careful next time. After 3 months seperation he sent me this email: I have divorced you in presence of witnesses. We are no longer married I had not been mensturating at this time. Then I started mensturating 2 days later and he sent me this in an email: As of now, Islamically you are a divorcee. As for idaat, I think you have already been in one for past 3 months. One more month to go and you can go and find someone for yourself. So then I was mensturating and I called him a day later begging him to come back and he said to me I already divorced you and I did it three times! and then I told him later I was mensturating and he said okay then next week I will give you three divorces again to make sure the marriage is over. Now it has been 2 weeks and he hasnt given me three divorces again. How many times does this count as me being divorced?.

 

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly: 

The fuqaha’ differed
concerning the divorce of a woman who is menstruating: does it count as such
or not? The majority are of the view that it does count as such, but a
number of them were of the view that it does not count as such. This is the
view of many contemporary scholars such as Shaykh Ibn Baaz and Shaykh Ibn
‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him). See also the answer to question
no. 72417. 

Based on this, the first
divorce does not count as such. 

Secondly: 

If your husband divorced
you when he was away from you, and sent you a message informing you of that,
you should look at the time when he uttered the divorce. If you were pure
(i.e., not menstruating) at that time, then the divorce counts as such,
whether the message reached you when you were pure or were menstruating. 

What we understand from
your question is that the first message reached you when you were not
menstruating, and the second message reached you when you were menstruating.
The time when the message arrived does not affect the ruling; what counts is
the time when he uttered the word of divorce. 

Having the divorce
witnessed is not essential. If he utters the word of divorce then divorce
takes place, even if it is in your absence or no one else is present. 

Thirdly: 

The 'iddah begins as soon
as the word of divorce is uttered. The 'iddah of a woman who menstruates is
three menstrual cycles. 

If he divorced you when you
were not menstruating, then you menstruated three times, and the third
period ended and you did ghusl, then your ‘iddah is over. 

Fourthly: 

Your husband says that he
divorced you three times. The fuqaha’ differed concerning the threefold
divorce. The most correct view is that it counts as one divorce, whether he
uttered in one phrase such as saying “You are thrice divorced”, or he
uttered it in separate phrases, such as saying “You are divorced, you are
divorced, you are divorced.” This was the view favoured by Shaykh al-Islam
Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) and was regarded as more correct
by Shaykh al-Sa’di and Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on
them). 

Based on this, it seems
from what you say that you have been divorced once. 

However, we say that with
regard to divorce, every case must be examined in detail. Hence you should
refer your case to an Islamic centre in your country, to make sure of what
has happened. 

And Allaah knows best.

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